If you're a Christian single then you will know the highs and lows of life, especially if you have been single for a long time.
Being Christian is a lifelong commitment,and if you’re anything like me, once you make a commitment you take it seriously.
After all God takes us seriously and only wants the best for us and sometimes God’s best can be hard.
Being single and Christian has to be one of the hardest challenges God puts us through, especially when you’ve been in the World and used to carrying out your own lusts and desires. After all God did give us a natural desire for the opposite sex.
I would listen to other Christian singles and how they were waiting on God to bring them a spouse because only God’s best would do.
They were contented in their singleness and accepting anything less was lack of faith, don’t you just hate them? I mean, it would be a great place to be if I could get there.
Getting there was the struggle, I prayed, I pleaded I cried out to God ‘Lord give me a husband or give me contentment in my singleness’. Nothing, I was still yearning for a husband, dreaming, wishing, and hoping.
I’d read the bible, listen to the most inspiring sermons, spoken to countless pastors but somehow I had not managed to find that place of complete acceptance of my Christian single life.
When I first became a believer, I was in a relationship, it wasn’t serious, but I liked him and being in the world sex was involved. So the day I gave my life to Christ I knew this was something new and wonderful I had done. I started to pray and read the bible, but when I saw my then boyfriend I knew something had to change.
I wasn’t certain but I kept on asking myself this question. ‘Don’t single Christians have sex’? That can’t be right, how can a fully-fledged adult not have sex until they were married. How can Christian singles go without sex for long long periods of their lives? That came as quite a shock to me as it churned around in my head. I knew I would find it in the bible but I didn’t know where, I was still in Genesis.
Anyway, the question stuck in my mind until I got the answer one day watching a Joyce Meyers sermon. She quoted from (Acts 15:20; Romans 1:29; 1 Corinthians 5:1; 6:13,18; 7:2; 10:8; 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Jude 7). I was shocked but my worst fears had been confirmed. I knew this is what God wanted me to do, abstain from sex until I was married.
So I told my boyfriend I could not have sex with him any longer in fact I found that when I kissed him for the first time after my salvation, that was wrong, the relationship ended soon after.
That was some twelve years ago, so where am I now? still single and still struggling, well, not so much with being single but the issues that surround my singleness. Things like, I can’t stop myself from thinking about sex, should I feel guilty? Or, how do I find a husband? These are just some of the issues I had as a Christian single and after speaking to some of my single friends I’m not the only one going through these emotions.
Over the years I have learnt some useful lessons on how to lead a successful Christian single Life and how I came to terms with my singleness.
Over the coming months I want share with you my most intermit struggles and how I overcame them. Erm, it wasn’t easy but here goes.